Why Saying “No” and Tantrums Are Normal and How Positive Behavior Supports Help

By Tiny Sprouts Therapy Speech Language Pathology, Inc. l Where We Grow & Play

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As parents and caregivers, it can be overwhelming when a child has a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store or refuses to eat the meal you lovingly prepared. These moments can feel stressful and confusing. The good news is that many of these behaviors are completely typical for young children and often reflect healthy growth.

At Tiny Sprouts Therapy, we believe that behavior is communication. Behaviors such as tantrums, saying “no,” or refusing meals are not about being difficult. They are part of how children grow, explore independence, and learn how to express their needs.

Tantrums Are a Normal Part of Growth

Typical age range: 18 months to 4 years

Tantrums are most common in toddlers and early preschoolers. This is a time when children feel emotions very strongly but do not yet have the skills to regulate or communicate those feelings effectively. Tantrums may occur when a child is tired, overstimulated, hungry, or experiencing a difficult transition.

Tantrums are not a sign of misbehavior. They are a sign that your child is still learning how to process emotions in a safe and supported environment.

Saying “No” Is a Healthy Way to Explore Independence

Typical age range: 2 to 4 years

Between the ages of two and four, children often discover the power of their own voice and opinions. Saying “no” is one of the earliest ways children assert independence and test boundaries. This behavior is a normal part of social and emotional development.

Instead of viewing this behavior as defiance, try to see it as your child practicing decision-making and communication. Children in this age range benefit from structure, routine, and choices that help them feel empowered.

How to use Positive Behavior Supports at Home

These behaviors are all developmentally appropriate. Rather than trying to stop them, our role is to support children through them with compassion and guidance.

Here are a few helpful strategies:

• Keep routines consistent and predictable

• Offer simple choices throughout the day

• Acknowledge your child’s emotions without trying to fix them

• Model calm and respectful communication

• Use short and clear language to explain what is happening

Final Thoughts

Children are not giving adults a hard time. They are having a hard time and learning how to navigate a complex world. These moments offer an opportunity to connect, build trust, and teach important life skills.

At Tiny Sprouts Therapy, we support families through every stage of development and offer assistance with positive behavior supports. If you have questions or concerns about your child’s behavior or communication, we are here to help.